I miss being my father’s daughter. Dad has been gone two years and days over six months. Most times I love to talk about him. Some memories still bring tears. Sweet tears.
I miss calling him. Though anyone who knows me just laughed. I’d rather chew off an arm than talk on the phone. Nonetheless I miss his voice; his corny jokes even his pointed questions. I miss making him proud. I didn’t do that enough.
All that to point out how amazing it is to be a daughter. Even when you could be closer, it’s a privilege. One we take for granted until we no longer are our fathers daughter. One we search for when that relationship is failed. One we long for as a child from a broken home. Daddy’s girl is no joke. It’s a thing we girls covet. It’s a thing many treasure and some miss.
Its so important that we make fun of it, as if that could possibly make it less important. It does not. We know.
As I think about missing my own father, I look at my daughter and my husband and my oldest son and his daughters, and I know how amazing being loved like that is. My husband and son have done a better job. Perhaps they have better daughters.
But I am still a daughter. Though my own dad is gone and perhaps let me down in life as perhaps I did him. I have the ultimate father, Abba Father.
I don’t call Him enough either. I take Him for granted too. But he doesn’t disappoint me and He isn’t disappointed in me. Satan may try to tell me different. Satan may have loved that I got separated from my own dad from time to time in my life. Separated emotionally as well as by miles. Satan can only lie and hope I’ll fall for his lies when it comes to my Abba Father.
Christ understood the importance of that relationship. He uses that name when the woman touches his cloak. You may not know this story. It’s in Mark Chapter 5. They had just crossed the water after sending demons into a herd of pigs. This was so amazing and scary that the people sent Him away. They could not handle this person who is Christ. There were crowds around when a ruler Jairus comes running in and begs Christ to come. Begs for his daughter who was near death. She’s just 12 years old. Still a child but in those days, almost not. She’s still his baby girl. He ran to beg for Jesus to come and heal her. He’s a man of faith. A leader in the synagogue.
And Jesus gets up to go. The crowd pushing in on all sides just to get a glimpse. So much so that when the woman reaches out and touches his cloak, the disciples completely dismiss Jesus when he asks who touched me. Completely dismiss the notion that they could even determine who did.
But Christ knows power has gone out of him, healing. The woman has been ill for 12 years, every year Jairus’ daughter has been alive. She’s got a bleeding disease. Technically that makes her unclean in Jewish culture and anyone who she touches or touches her is defiled by her touch. Except Christ. She is healed and made clean by His touch. It goes the other direction there. Instead of Him being made unclean she is made whole! She knows it instantly too. You can’t be sick, probably horribly anemic for 12 years, and when you are healed entirely, not know. She knows and drops to His feet, afraid. She’s been called out, Jesus knows. No getting out of this now. She had previously spent all of her money on doctors to no avail. She’s desperate enough, yet has a tiny amount of faith. She thought if I could just touch His cloak… but now she’s exposed. And just like the defilement could not touch Him, and only good flowed out, He does not judge or cause her any shame. Instead He calls her “Daughter”. The most precious word in the world. She’s no longer an outsider and an outcast but wholly accepted by Him.
Abba Father means the same to His other daughters. He’s not ashamed of us. Though we may deserve that. He does not label us outcasts, outsiders or unworthy. He should. He calls us not only child, but daughter. Such a precious gift to be His daughter. We are made whole, He is not made low by us.
Jairus’ daughter passes away it takes so long to get there. Christ is rebuked by the family for saying otherwise. He kicks everyone but her parents out. Her dad is there but Christ knows she’s His daughter too. He heals her as well. She was that ripe kind of dead too. Jesus makes her whole. No one questioned she was dead until Jesus says she’s just sleeping. Why do they never believe Him?
Not only does He heal her returning her to her family, and to her dad. Maybe to prove she isn’t a ghost or something, He tells them to feed her! He cares for her health in multiple ways. There before her dad. Christ got how important it is to be the daughter. How loved and special that title is.
Our Abba Father understands our need for that kind of care and love. That kind of status of being adored. He adores us. Just as we are. He heals us, makes us clean without shame. Instead He adores us. We must NOT listen to Satan. Good flows out of Christ, evil does not touch Him. Though we should never take this love for granted either. Unlike my dad, Christ will never leave us or forsake us. He will never let me down. The perfect family umbrella.
Christ calls me daughter. How sweet the sound of that word. How amazing to be whole and clean. Nothing I could do will drive Him away nor make Him love me anymore! I am cherished. Daddy’s girl. No love can surpass this one.
Still I really should call to Him more…
Miss you Dad!
By Vicki L Pugliese